Juggling means to continuously toss into the air and catch (a number of objects) so as to keep at least one in the air while handling the others. If this doesn’t describe motherhood then nothing does. Each day we balance kids, work, spouses, pets, businesses, etc. and I’m pretty sure I always feel like something is hanging out in the air while I’m dealing with something else.
In general I like to think of myself as a great multitasker. I think I’ve even used that on a resume. Able to handle multiple projects at a time, and with efficiency. The thing about motherhood is that efficiency isn’t what I pour my effort into, it’s the quality. Even though I’m juggling all these things at once I want to juggle them delicately and lovingly. I want to be the best that I can and give them the best that I am.
Everyone in my family needs me in different capacity. My one year old depends on me for baths, feedings, diaper changes and all the holding and cuddling he can stand. He is dependent on his mama to the fullest capacity, even for falling asleep. My oldest son relies on me in many of the same ways. He looks to me for reassurance during homework and making decisions. He still requires my attention and time. We cuddle on the couch and he just likes to know he’s still my baby too. As for my partner, he requires much of me as well. I’m who he shares his day with, his troubles and his joys. When he needs clean socks because somehow he put them in front of the washer and not in the washer, I’m there. We’re best friends, partners in parenthood and everything in between.
There are no perfect parents. If someone says they’re perfect they’re lying. If you think you’re perfect, I’m sorry, that’s another lie. Nobody is perfect. The limit does not exist. Literally. We are all out here juggling and trying to figure it out. We’re just winging it, one day at a time.
I am a firm believer in parenting your own way. The whole purpose of my blog and starting Millie + Mom is to encourage moms to have the freedom to parent their own way. I think that motherhood should be a judgment free zone because only you know what’s best for your children. There is no right or wrong, it’s all about what’s best for you and your babies. If the kids are clean, fed, full, loved and happy you’re doing amazing mama. Keep doing your thing.
I plan to spend forever juggling this family of mine. Motherhood is a journey and a process. There is no one that can do what I can for my kids. Only I can love them this way and I’ll love them forever.