Hey y’all! I feel like it’s been a little while since I’ve written. Hoping this finds you all doing so well. And if not I’m praying it gets better.
October the 10th was National Mental Health Awareness day. I am a firm believer that there is nothing more important than mental health awareness. As a mother, a spouse, a full time employee, trying to start a small business it can get overwhelming. Life can be overwhelming for all of us in one way or another. A mental health check is necessary. Motherhood can have a large impact on your mental health. According to the National Institute of Health (NIH) 1 in 8 women experiences postpartum depression after giving birth. Believe me when I say, you are not alone. Anxiety and depression are the most common mental illnesses that affect women during motherhood. Motherhood has given me my fair share of tears, fears, and anxieties.
Even in 2020 mental health seems to be a bit of a taboo discussion. There are so many people that take medication to deal with issues such as depression and anxiety and you would probably never know it. We hide this better than we hide our tampon on the way to the bathroom. Why? What makes us shameful of taking care of our mental health? I’ve never taken medication myself but I am definitely not against it. By definition I have had my bouts with anxiety. I have friends that have taken meds regularly for years and friend that required use of meds post-partum. Motherhood changes you in ways that most couldn’t fathom. It reshapes your mind, your body, and your soul. It’s a beautiful unraveling of things. It is nothing that you should feel shameful about.
Motherhood is a beautiful thing. It forces you to look in the mirror with a lens that is often more clear than we would like to. You can see pieces of yourself reflected in them and your mother’s voice comes through you loud and clear. The beautiful unraveling. This is not easy and it’s nothing you should feel you have to conquer alone.
To better deal with mental health here are some things you can do:
1. Counseling. Talking to a professional is a wonderful way to work through your thoughts and feelings.
2. Medication. Speaking with physician about what’s happening with your mind and describing symptoms can help you both develop a treatment plan.
3. Connect with other moms. Nobody knows more about what you’re going through than someone that’s right there with you. Connect with your mom circle.
4. Make time for YOU. Having some “Me Time” is essential for mental health. Take some time to do things that relax you mentally and physically. You can’t pour from an empty glass for too long.
5. Forget perfection. Feeling that everything has to be perfect damaging. Don’t burden yourself with unrealistic expectations. Do what you can when you can.
6. Last. Don’t be afraid to reach out. You are not alone. I can’t say that enough times. There are more people around you that can empathize than you realize. Find your best listener friend and talk. They can help you through the process.
Mental health is VITAL to your overall health and wellness. Taking care of you is taking care of them. Be good to yourself.